Wyatt Family

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Breast feeding

I know a lot of you mom's breast feed, or have breast fed. Most of you probably won't agree with me when I say......."I don't like breast feeding." Now, I do like it because I know it's better for babies, and it's good for me too. So I will stick to it. But you always read and hear how convenient it is. Sure, it's convenient when your in your home with nothing to do. But the convenience goes out the window the minute you step out of the comforts of my home. When you are in the car and baby is crying to eat. With a bottle you can go sit in back and feed him. Not with breast feeding. When you are at the store and it's time for baby to eat, what do you do? Go find somewhere to sit, get out your breast cover so no one sees your boobs, and sit at the store for a half hour while you feed him. What do your 4 and 2 year old do for a half hour? run a ruckus at the store, cry and complain because they are tired of waiting for you. Plus Brigham hates to be covered while he eats. I get hot sweaty under the blanket. If I was bottle feeding I would pop the bottle in and hold it while I walked around the store. At night your exhausted because your the only one who can feed him. Sure you can pump and freeze your milk, so your husband can help from time to time. Robby did that last night, and it took forever to un thaw that milk. Baby was screaming waiting for it to warm up.
Last night we went to the fair. Where and the heck do you feed a baby at the fair? We were watching the hypnotist. There weren't any seats left, so we had to stand. It was 90 something degree's, and Brigham was hungry. I had to sit on the hard ground, and try to feed him under the blanket on the ground, sweating in the heat. He hates to be covered. So he squirmed and cried. It was quite frustrating and I wanted to cry my self. with larger boobs, and a squirming baby, trying to stay covered was hard. I had Robby constantly trying to help adjust the cover. The last 10 min of feeding I kinda gave up trying to stay completely covered, and I think it bothered a couple of women sitting next to me. One looked at me and gave a look, and then her friend looked at me. They could probably see an inch of my boob and thought I was horrible. It was so uncomfortable, and such a headache to feed him like that. I missed the whole show.
For those breast feeding mom's out there. Do you have any tips for me to make it better, less miserable? How do I take pumped milk out with me, and keep it good, and warm it up while I am out? I don't know how that works. I need tips and help so I don't go crazy and feel like I can leave my home and be ok.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

What's up with the Wyatt's

We have been home for a little over a week now. Adjusting to a new baby and having 3 kids.
It hasn't been as bad as I imagined or as bad as every one told me it would be. But I guess it's been less then 2 weeks, we will see if it stays that way. Of course being sleep deprived is hard. My ward and family have been great and have brought us dinners. With Abbey and Jaden, we didn't have dinners brought to us, so this was nice not to have to cook and just relax and recover. Brigham is a really good baby. He only cries when he is hungry or if we undress him. I just love to hold and cuddle him. He is doing really good at breast feeding. It's very exciting for me, because Abbey and Jaden didn't. The hardest thing for me right now, is giving Abbey and Jaden attention like I use to. I feel like they are neglected and all the things we use to do, like go for walks and the park have come to an end for a while and I feel bad about that. The other hard thing is my time with Robby has gone. Our nights of talking, watching movies or even sleeping in the same bed have come to an end. I am sure as time goes on and we get the hang of things and get more sleep it will be back to normal. Well I hope so any way, and I hope sooner then later.
Here are some pictures since we have been home from the hospital.
Abbey fell asleep holding Brigham's hand

My Grandparents came to see Brigham

my little boy, seems so big now.

Just loving little Brigs

Abbey started Preschool. This was her first day. She was so excited. The night before she got her back pack ready and put it next to the front door, and then put her shoes next to the door and back pack. She had a good first day, and was excited to make new friends.

Jaden used his bread for his pillow. When he woke up 2 hours later, he continued eating his bread.

We took the kids to the state fair. Brigham slept the whole time, which was nice. Abbey and Jaden loved it.

Brigham's first real outing. I think people thought I was crazy for taking Brigham out and my self only 10 days later. But I thought it was good for us to get out. Good for me, and the kids.

Abbey was too freaked out with the animals to pet them. When she saw the sheep, she totally freaked out and started crying. I think Mutton bustin really traumatized her.

Jaden was all smiles on the pony. He loved it!

They were so cute waiting in line together.

I think Jaden enjoyed the rides so much. Abbey did too, but Jadens face said it all.

with it being blurry, can you see Jaden's face? I loved seeing him so happy.

p.s. I have lost 17 pounds because of only gaining 3 pounds during pregnancy. 2o came off and that means 17 pounds gone! It feels so nice. I tried on my pre pregnancy pants and they were too big. I tried on some pants I had from Christmas that were a little too snug, and they fit me!

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Labor

I always print off what I write on my blog and put it in my journal. So I wanted to write about my labor with Brigham.
Brigham is a week today! This week has flown by!
The day before I went in to get induced was a day of cleaning, laundry, finding baby sitters, and getting last minute things done. I was so nervous and so excited!
September 1st I went to Salt Lake Regional hospital at 7am to be induced. My doctor moved my due date up according to ultra sound measurements. So I guess I was a week early.
I was so nervous that morning, mostly because I wasn't going to get an epidural, and I didn't know what to expect or if I would get through it ok. I knew I wasn't going to get one, I had my mind set, but I was hoping I could get through it ok. Once they started my potocin at about 8:15ish I started to get nervous and I was like "oh no! here we go!" Contractions started coming regular at about 9am. My Doula Michelle came about 9. She told me to start practicing my breathing, and meditation, with the small contractions, so that when they became stronger I would be ready and knew what to do.
So with every contraction I would close my eyes, concentrate on my slow breathing, and do my meditation. I would go to a different place and imagine and tell my self that my cervix was opening and the baby was moving down.
It really worked. It helped get through the contractions.
My doula, Robby and my mom were there for any thing I needed or wanted them to do for me. I really liked massages, acupressure, and the oils my doula used. My doula would tell my mom or Robby to try certain techniques to help.
Doula's are so great to have! I am so glad I got one. I know it made a world a difference. Michelle was great. She was there for my every need. She never left my side. Robby was just like Michelle, he did all he could to help me, comfort me, cheer me on, hold me, what ever I needed. My mom also was there to help me, with what ever.
For me, it helped to be out of bed standing and swaying or sitting on the birthing ball. I rarely laid in bed. I know standing and the birthing ball helped bring the baby down too.
Sometimes my contractions would die out or stop for some reason. My doula knew how to get them back by doing acupressure. I think the acupressure worked better then the potocin at keeping the contractions regular and strong.
The first 4 hours before they broke my water was not bad. They were uncomfortable, and they had pain, but really I was surprised how it wasn't hard to get through at all. I think it was because of the techniques Michelle gave me, and the help I had. But I kept thinking, if this is as bad as it gets, this is no problem. I knew it would get worse though.
After 4 hours, they checked my cervix and it only dilated to a 5. I went to the hospital at a 4. So it was going kinda slow. My doctor wanted to break my water. Now that was VERY VERY painful! My cervix was turned. (I don't know how) But my doctor and to pull on it, to get to it and break my water.
After she broke my water it seemed like just about 10 minutes later and the contractions were much more intense. There wasn't much any one could do to help the pain. What helped me most was to hold Robby or have him hold me and we did a slow dance. It seemed with every contraction just got more and more intense and harder to get through. But I think I did good on focusing on my breathing and meditation as much as possible considering the pain I was in. I know I did get louder, and less able to stay focused. I felt lots of pressure. They checked me and in a hour I dilated to a 7. I knew once I got to a 7 I would be a ten in like 15 min, because that is how I was with Jaden. Once I hit a 7, it changed. It was VERY intense and VERY painful. more then I even imagined. At that point Nothing, or no one could help me and I didn't want to be helped or touched.
I told the nurse I felt lots of pressure and the baby might becoming soon. I got on the bed to be checked. I yelled "here comes the baby" The next thing I knew I felt an urge to push. The head was there. The nurse ran out and grabbed a doctor. Not my doctor, she wasn't there. The baby came too fast. There was no holding it back. I gave 2 half pushes and Brigham came out! he was out before any one in the room could even see him.
I remember the feeling after he came out was relief, and "wow!! I did it!" Plus I just fell in love with Brigham the minute I saw him.
I had recorded it, which I am glad I did. It's hard to remember every thing that went on because of I was in my own world towards the end.
my mom, My 2 sisters, my sister in law Grisel, my grandma, my niece and nephew were all in the room with me.
I really liked going natural. If I can do it, any one can. It was awesome to feel like I was doing the work to get Brigham here, and feeling much more apart of it, then just laying in a bed numb waiting for the time to push. I can't explain it, but I will do it again for our next and last birth.
It was 6 1/2 hour labor. half hour less then Jaden's and 10 hours less then Abbey's.